How to Talk to Kids About Their Artwork: Encouraging Creativity Without Judgment
Picture This: your child runs up to you, paint-splattered and glowing with pride, holding up their latest creation-it’s a big moment. You want to say the right thing, something that shows you’re proud and paying attention. But sometimes, the go-to praise like “That’s so pretty!” or “What is it?” can miss the deeper opportunity for connection and creative growth.
At Light + Love Arts, we believe how we talk about a child’s art is just as important as the art itself. Here's why—and how to do it in a way that honors their process, builds confidence, and supports their voice.
Why Language Matters in Early Childhood Art
For kids ages 3–6, art is more than a product—it's a way to process feelings, explore ideas, and communicate thoughts that might not yet have words. When we respond thoughtfully, we send the message:
“I see you. I hear you. Your ideas matter.”
What Not to Say (and Why)
“What is it?”
This question can feel confusing or discouraging if your child wasn’t trying to make a recognizable thing. Instead, they may have been exploring color, motion, or how materials feel.“That’s beautiful!” or “Good job!”
While well-meaning, vague praise like this shifts the focus to your approval, rather than the child’s experience. It can subtly teach kids to make art to please others, rather than to express themselves.
What to Say Instead
Here are a few simple, supportive alternatives:
“Tell me about this.”
This open-ended prompt invites your child to share their thoughts, stories, or process—without assuming what the art is “supposed” to be.“I noticed you used a lot of blue today—what made you choose that?”
Observation-based comments show that you’re paying attention to how they worked, not just the result.“You spent a long time on this corner—what were you working on there?”
Commenting on effort and process encourages persistence and pride in their own work.“How did it feel to make this?”
This helps children connect with the sensory and emotional experience of creating.
Letting the Child Lead
Sometimes your child may not want to talk about their art at all—and that’s okay! Respecting their space and timing shows them that their art belongs to them. You can still express presence and support with a warm smile, a gentle “thank you for showing me,” or simply sitting nearby while they create.
Remember: It’s Their Story
When we let children take the lead in sharing their art, we’re letting them own their voice. Over time, these small conversations build a foundation of confidence, self-expression, and the understanding that their ideas matter.
Want to practice this at home?
Next time your child shows you something they’ve made, try asking: “Can you tell me about what you were thinking when you made this?” Then just listen. You might be surprised by what they have to say.
